Saturday, May 15, 2010

Drama, Drama, Drama

I suppose I shouldn't be surprise that drama will arise when you have negative people and alcohol mixed in with big personalities.

Today I got to witness some interesting drama at a birthday party. I wasn't in the mix but once again my role as Switzerland was kind of tested. First, the parties involved had quite a few drinks and then the negative feelings some people have toward others just came out in the form of a screaming match. Actually, it started a touch earlier. The negative person, we'll call her Nancy, kept saying "I hate that B." Based on how the night ended, I'm going with the assumption that she was seeking someone kind of validation or looking for a comrade. I don't have an issue with the target of her animosity so I chose to not got involved and ignored the comments.

When the fighting actually broke out the Birthday Girl got very upset and asked people to help tell the ones in the fight to leave. Since it was her house, I got up and went toward the fight to see if I was even going to be able to do anything. The fighting got worse so I helped escort some people outside. When that didn't work, I went to the bathroom, got some tissues and handed them out to those who needed them. I then tried to calm people down. That didn't work. So then I went back outside. The fighting broke up and the contenders were separated. Then, because who knows why, the people came back together to start shit up again. I then just turned to Aaron and asked him if he wanted to go out to the front of the house, away from everyone. By this time, Nancy's target was reduced to tears and the Birthday Girl was very upset and were headed right towards us. Since I was kind of right there, the proper thing to do was to try to comfort people. I did. It worked. When I went back to where Nancy was, I couldn't help but feel a wave of negativity coming from Nancy. I chose to ignore her.

Now here's my thing; I don't understand why some people feel the need to air out their shit when drinking and while among a large group of people , at a clearly inappropriate time. It was at the Birthday Girl's home for crying out loud. Why can't people just air out their issues between themselves? If you have an issue with someone and it gets to a point where you can' ignore it any longer, why not pull the person aside and get it out in private?

Am I crazy? The other thing that gets me is that Nancy seemed to have gotten pissy with me for actually trying to calm people down and respecting Birthday Girl's wishes. It's her fricking house!

The crazy thing is, Nancy isn't usually this bad. Sure she is negative. No one who knows her can deny this. I've had plenty of interactions with her and no, she's not my favorite person in the world but I can normally ignore her sour demeanor without a problem. Today, however, it really bugged me.

Eh. I don't know I suppose I'm just crazy like that. I actually behave and don't like seeing people reduced to tears and/or being rude in a person's home.


LivingDeadNurse said...

nope happens more than u think...on reason i hate inlaw get togethers...thats when all the drama gets stirred even...of all days to be merry and love ur fellow man...